I used to be the product manager for Berkeley DB products at Oracle. I've been around working on these BDB databases for over eight years now, I wrote the "blurb" you copied into your question.
Commercially we're used in (non-exhaustive list, just off the top of my head):
- Autodesk uses BDB XML in Mapquest
- Farelogix uses BDB XML for a reservation system
- Starwood Hotels uses BDB XML to manage information about properties they manage
- Juniper Networks uses BDB XML in the NetScreen security manager
- many I can't name due to contract restrictions...
- and so on...
Berkeley DB XML has been relatively ignored in the open source world, I have no idea why. There are a few projects here and there have used it, nothing all that public that I know of. I did recently see a nifty blog post about how to use BDB XML from within Emacs. Once setup you can run XQuery statements over XML interactively within the text editor. That said, it's very viable for commercial and open source use.
XQilla is a project created by the BDB XML engineers from a few other XML projects we knitted together over the years. We open sourced (Apache 2.0 license) XQilla because it's a great XQuery and XML parsing library. We're a database company, so the piece that takes XML after it's been parsed and organizes it into our btree databases as well as the work on query optimization, indexing, statistics, and a whole ton of other code is what sits under XQilla but above BDB's btree gluing the two together into BDB XML. Feel free to use it if it solves your problem, there's no database there at all.
Product built from the ground up for XML generally have a few transactional data structures at their core which manage information on disk. There's not much optimization that can be done that we've not already done in Berkeley DB and used in Berkeley DB XML. To say that a database built from the ground up to manage XML is going to be significantly better than BDB XML is saying that there's something missing from Berkeley DB, I don't think there a defensible argument here but I'm willing to learn if someone has information on a concurrent, transactional data structure critical for efficient XML storage that BDB doesn't already implement.
eXist is a Java XML database, we have a Java JNI API if you'd like and we generally beat the pants off eXist in performance, stability and scalability tests.
Sedna is a good XML database, it's Apache 2.0 so it's not a dual-license, it's just FLOSS software. I'd suggest you benchmark it against BDB XML, you might be surprised.
MarkLogic is a great XML/XQuery database server, they've built a very solid product. It's not a software library, it's a server. There are significant differences between BDB XML and MarkLogic, but they are both commercially available - only BDB XML is open source.
Someone mentioned Elliot Rusty Harold's blog on the state of XML databases, be careful it's circa 2007 - hey, isn't that before any NoSQL database existed? ;-)
Take a look at Kimbro Staken's old but still relevant review (turned into a whitepaper by Oracle), it's good but also dated. "Use a Native XML Database for Your XML Data: Deciding when an XQuery-based native XML database is better than an SQL database"
The real authority over the years has been Ron Bourrett. He has a lot to say on the subject.
MongoDB and CouchDB are in a different market segment. They do distributed, partitioned, eventually consistent BASE-style (non ACID) data management and some think they do that very well. I think they are young, the jury is still out. They are off to a good start and I hope that they continue to grow, data storage is a hard thing to get right and one size doesn't fit everyone's problem/needs. BDB XML's distributed story is built on single-master, multi-replica always consistent (if you'd like) log-based replication and PAXOS-based election algorithms when the master fails. We don't partition data, every node contains the same data (the entire database). We don't allow writes everywhere, only at the master. We support more than TCP/IP for replication (heck, you could use a hardware bus custom to your server if you want). We built our HA product to solve read-scalability, system availability and fault-tolerance. NoSQL's distributed systems are designed for write anywhere partitioned data management. Choice is good, right? :)
XML as a data schema and XQuery as a language to access and manage XML content has been and continues to be a very successful solution. Maybe not so much in the more public websites using NoSQL solutions these days (which is fine, and interesting to me) but more so in document management, finance, genomics, bioinformatic, data exchange, messaging, and much more. XML may be a niche database when compared to SQL/relational products but it is certainly much more successful than object databases or any new kid on the block NoSQL database solution. Every storage solution has its place, XML will continue to do useful things far into the future.
At the end of the day, I hope you pick a database suits your needs.