I found a solution that I like a little better because it doesn't involving executing code with a delay (which is always iffy given android hardware fragmentation and different processor speeds).
In your onTabChanged() method, before you try to find the fragment, call executePendingTransactions() on the fragment manager associated with your tabHost. It seems there are some places in the FragmentTabHost source code where they should be calling executePendingTransactions() but fail to do so.
This works every time the tab changes with one exception... the first tab that is selected still comes back null... In my specific case, I was able to handle this exception differently anyway, by putting some code in onResume.
Hope this helps.