I think the best way to deal with this is to focus just on the first line of your question - deciding which one to use for a given scenario.
The two libraries serve different purposes. Speculating on core elements of the design of each to look for differences feels like asking why chalk doesn't taste like cheese - although I can't fault the specific points you have listed.
In my experience, there are rarely non-trivial scenarios where they are interchangeable in any sensible way. I think the actual descriptions from their documentation make a pretty self-explanatory answer to this question:
Rx
Reactive Extensions (Rx) is a library for composing asynchronous and
event-based programs using observable sequences and LINQ-style query
operators. Using Rx, developers represent asychronous data streams using
LINQ operators, and parameterize the concurrency in the asynchronous
data streams using Schedulers. Simply put, Rx = Observables + LINQ +
Schedulers
I would also look at my other answer here which is quite relevant when considering Rx: Where to draw the line with reactive programming. The essence of this is that Rx is good for responding to events you don't control in a timely manner.
TPL Dataflows
The Task Parallel Library (TPL) provides dataflow components to help
increase the robustness of concurrency-enabled applications. These
dataflow components are collectively referred to as the TPL Dataflow
Library. This dataflow model promotes actor-based programming by
providing in-process message passing for coarse-grained dataflow and
pipelining tasks. The dataflow components build on the types and
scheduling infrastructure of the TPL and integrate with the C#, Visual
Basic, and F# language support for asynchronous programming. These
dataflow components are useful when you have multiple operations that
must communicate with one another asynchronously or when you want to
process data as it becomes available. For example, consider an
application that processes image data from a web camera. By using the
dataflow model, the application can process image frames as they
become available. If the application enhances image frames, for
example, by performing light correction or red-eye reduction, you can
create a pipeline of dataflow components. Each stage of the pipeline
might use more coarse-grained parallelism functionality, such as the
functionality that is provided by the TPL, to transform the image.