In OrientDB 3.x, the 'ADD' option in UPDATE statement is not available
The way to add to set/list etc. is to use the SQL functions. Refer: SQL Function Reference.
In the above case, to add to a list the list() function could be used. Below is an example:
UPDATE #62:0 SET category=list(category,'y');
In the above example, if the category property has value, the value 'y' will be merged into the list. If category is not set 'y' will be set in a list
UPDATE #62:0 SET category=set(category,'y');
Similar to the above, set also can be inserted into.