I also think that the temp table is likely the best solution.
If you were to do a "delete from .. where ID in (select id from ...)" it can still be slow with large queries, though. I thus suggest that you delete using a join - many people don't know about that functionality.
So, given this example table:
-- set up tables for this example
if exists (select id from sysobjects where name = 'OurTable' and type = 'U')
drop table OurTable
go
create table OurTable (ID integer primary key not null)
go
insert into OurTable (ID) values (1)
insert into OurTable (ID) values (2)
insert into OurTable (ID) values (3)
insert into OurTable (ID) values (4)
go
We can then write our delete code as follows:
create table #IDsToDelete (ID integer not null)
go
insert into #IDsToDelete (ID) values (2)
insert into #IDsToDelete (ID) values (3)
go
-- ... etc ...
-- Now do the delete - notice that we aren't using 'from'
-- in the usual place for this delete
delete OurTable from #IDsToDelete
where OurTable.ID = #IDsToDelete.ID
go
drop table #IDsToDelete
go
-- This returns only items 1 and 4
select * from OurTable order by ID
go